Friday, January 20, 2006
And all the roads we have to walk are winding..
Hello world.
I am now killing about 84% of all cells in my body by choosing to sit in an Arctic of a library, wasting my time on nonsenseness rather than work, because my cash card is low on moolah and my bank acct is so too so I can't top up and I can't zap all my readings so I can't read, and I don't want to go home yet because my dad just called and told me to go home straight after I'm done with school because my room is in a mess and he wants it cleared so OF COURSE I should STAY AWAY instead haha.
If I'm any more attractive I could probably sell myself and get instant cash, but I figured God must have loved me and wanted to protect me so He made me as I am, i.e. selengeh. Alhamdulillah.. But back to the main topic of concern I am really low on $$ and it doesn't help that my tutee's mother wants to start tuition only from Feb onwards and my sister's sister-in-law is only offering me $80 per head for her kids even though one of the boys is already in sec 4.
Ha.. My brother wont be happy about that too. He wants me to get as much $$ as I can make so he wouldn't have to pay my monthly $100 transport fare so he can put them into his KAHWIN acct instead. My bro and his kahwin. Now I wish she wasn't that pretty so my bro wont be so excited. I kinda need him for myself now.
(ok I was REALLY kidding abt the pretty and excited comment now, pple, sheesh.)
Anyway. I really wanna share some stfs (STUFFS!! *shouts in zahzah's face, tho she really doesn't read this.*) that I got off my relationship skills lec yesterday. The stfs (STUFFS) in italics are really my own elaborations, and they may sound a lil crappy but cut me some slack, I try.
Thoughts about TRUST:
- Trust is a complex subject.
Who really understands it? It's just like trying to understand love. But who cares, just like love, we know it's essential and we just know we need it in order to interact effectively with other pple.
- Trust exists in relationships, not in personality.
I like this one and I think this is a good reminder to all of us. I trust you because you're my good friend, not because you're nice and friendly and listen to my shits like you've nothing better to do. A person may be this whale of a gangster but you can trust him. On the other hand, he may be all nice and chummy but you can't. Not because he's really out to harm you or anything. Maybe he's just really mulut becok who can't keep his mouth shut even if his life depends on it (hahaa doesn't this reminds you of somebody... *nudges Hafie* u know I know.. :D). Basically, the greater the rapport that you have with a person, the greater the sense of trust that you may share with that person.
- Trust constantly changes.
-with the evolution of the relationship. There may be something that a person did that made you gain your trust in him, or lessen . Or as the relationship between the 2 of you strenghtens or weakens.
- Trust is hard to find, easy to destroy.
Need I say more?
- Key to building trust is trustworthiness.
Trust will continue as long as trustworthiness continues. You can't expect that fella to trust and continue trusting you if you keep breaking his trust right? Prove you deserve the trust 1st then consciously and conscientiously MAINTAIN it. Trust needs to be fed.
- Appropriate trust.
And trust must be fitting la. Cannot anyhow anyhow then trust. Burn yourself only..
Remember, cooperation increases trust, competition decreases it. That's why some people get so suspicious when you wanna borrow their notes or what, competition man! That's why study groups are good. You work together and get smart together. Haha.. Ok tt comment was purely random.
(Johnson, 2000, Reaching out. Chp 3)And you know sometimes, people may not tell you certain truths not because they are nasty or what.. It's just that they want to protect themselves. Just like in social work, some clients may not tell the worker certain things to protect their family etc.. So the worker can't give up on them la but maybe could instead find the reasons why.
Food for thought.
Ok! My gd fren is waiting for me in the forum! Gotta run!!
iFLEW @ 5:16:00 pm
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